And it was wrong is a grassroots compilation of women's experiences of sexual assault. It is a project made up of women giving voice to a problem society silences: that of sexual assault as it occurs in our everyday lives. What is the recourse for the woman harassed on the street? Or the high school girl felt up by her boyfriend when she says no? Or the one whose friend doesn't stop his advances even when she keeps turning away? There isn't one-- yet. And so by the time we hit high school we've learned that whatever this experience is, it must not be a big deal. It must just be a part of growing up a girl.
This is what we are fighting through And it was wrong. We submit our stories of anything that happened when someone acted upon our bodies without consideration for what we wanted. We submit our stories, whether they're one line, one page or one dozen pages. We submit our experiences from childhood through adolescence through adulthood. We submit our stories because these experiences have been ignored when they should have been heard. We submit our stories because we recognize the power in our voices, and we will use our voices together to say that this is wrong.
We are working on adding a feature to the site where readers can submit general feedback on feelings and how the stories have affected them so that women who have submitted their stories can see the positive impact they’ve made by speaking out. We are also working on a blog, where we will invite interested folks to be guest bloggers. Until then, feel free to email [email protected] with feedback you'd like to share and we will work on getting it out there. You can also write on our facebook wall or tweet at us.
There should absolutely be a space for conversations about sexual assault as it is experienced by people who've experienced same-sex assaults, folks in the LGBTQ communities, as well as cisgender men, but it would not be treating those groups with the respect they deserve to assume that their experiences can be truly reflected by just adding them on to this particular conversation. It would be great if this project could reflect the commonalities of everyone’s experiences while still validating their differences, however when we try to cover everything we often cover nothing.
It is this project's hope that people whose experiences are not reflected will still find empowerment in reading the stories and will explore the resources page for additional sources of healing and empowerment. Please feel free to contact [email protected] for help locating any additional resources.